1. Control your emotions: teens have a problem dealing with adult emotions. Don’t push them, at the end of the day, they are not responsible for how you feel.
2. Keep it positive and casual: a teen will check out when they feel pressure, if you keep it breezy your teen will let down their guard.
3. Don’t play detective: Don’t interrogate them, don’t ask how long they’ve known their new friend, what their parents are like, or push for information in any way. Whenever they share something just smile and say “oh that sounds fun”.
4. Listen and watch your tongue: listen attentively and no judging or criticizing. Your kids need to know they can tell you anything without you reacting.
5. Share about your day too: part of making your teen feel more like a grownup is an equal exchange of information, tell him about your stuff, be real with them in a non-threatening way.
Remember: You are not alone. Be as supportive as you can and keep at it!